Regarding white women who date/marry black men, I believe the part about them not being fixated but it doesn’t matter because the damage is done. The issue is that social structure that has come to form where blacks are celebrated, their shortcomings are blamed on whites, and white abilities are said to come from cultural appropriation (if all black achievement in the past 500 years is total and quantified, does it equal howitzer canon?). Many white girls are left with mixed race children and a man must be the cuck of cucks to raise those kids. Maybe a great man would do it, but one thing is for sure: at the prime of her beauty, the wife gave herself to another man who doesn’t look like you. Overall destabalization takes place because no one wants to marry, or invest in a woman, if he believes she prefers something else. The male ego is too sensitive (a good thing as that can result in staggering amounts of productivity to provide for the mate).

To anyone interested in the realities of interracial dating, I urge you to read r/happas. The sheer unadulterated pain in that forum should give anyone pause. People who dismiss it as sniveling are idiotic. There is a lot of pain in many interracial relationships; sometimes at the child’s level.

https://www.reddit.com/r/hapas/

I think Priss Factor is correct. Black people have a very strong physical presence and many young black men have tremendous unwarranted confidence. In high school, my daughter was the recipient of many dick pics from black males accompanied by bold assertions of a brotha’s superiority. Older white people do not realize how bad things are for the young. First whites are a minority and second everything white is seen as unearned. So if white achievement is simply on the backs of minorities, then anyone could have accomplished “white” achievement. If that is the case that white achievement is not the result of white intelligence, then blacks with their overt presence must be superior to whites because they have the same native intelligence, but an obvious superior physicality. Since black guys are bigger and stronger and since the mothers and fathers of white boys choose to neuter their own sons via advancing notions of “white privilege” and “diversity,” white boys are cucked by societal structure. They must then watch as a high fraction of white girls get with black boys (it is not a lie). Since black boys are so often very different in personality and physicality, and since young nubile women are the prize of society, it must devastate the psyche to realize that people such as yourself are not the object of desire (see the happas at reddit). Of course, female desire is pushed in this direction by the parents of the white boys who advance “diversity” and lie about white achievement, so the situation is tragic. The situation is worse because you don’t need young white men underperforming since there is zero chance that young black men are going to pick up the slack. While I am not against interracial relationship because there are wonderful people of all races, and terrible people of all races, the problem is that white parents are basically creating a structure that amplifies black qualities and lowers white qualities. This cannot be good for society. What white man is going to invest heavily in his family and push to his limits if he thinks his wife, at some level, prefers a man so different from himself. I would say black people have as much to lose as whites from this very reality.