File this under how social media is making us miserable. Among singles who view posts about other people’s relationships on social media, seeing those posts make nearly an order of magnitude as many feel worse about their own dating lives as are made to feel better about them:
This isn’t restricted to romantic relationships. Career, family time, vacations, workouts, cooking, hobbies–everyone else is having a blast, conquering the world, creating something special. All the people in your social network are doing this. They’re doing it while you flounder. Even when you post your own piece of perfect misery, it’s just one contrived moment. But your timeline is unending, filled with friends and colleagues doing cool things. It’s one thing when it’s in a magazine. When your neighbors are giddy and glamorous, though, it’s hard to feel worthy.
If getting off the harvesting platforms is too much to ask, consider a little self-deprecation now and then. You’ll make someone’s day. Parenthetically, the perpetual self honoring primes us for the feeding frenzies that occur whenever an unlucky person bleeds a little. Because everyone else is so Good, the Bad person looks really, really Bad. It is important that those Good people signal how Good they are by tearing the Bad person apart in the most vicious and aggressive way possible. He’s Bad!