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I’m back in Philly to wrap things up, return my apartment, give a paid talk and say goodbye to my friends. With Felix Giordano, I’ve hit bars in the Italian Market, Point Breeze, Pennsport, Fishtown and Whitman. Soon, we’ll run over to Billy Boy’s in the Pine Barrens, where the owner/cook makes some of the best comfort food anywhere, and the hardy, friendly people soothe our souls. Mellowing in there, it’s hard to believe you’re only 30 miles from the mayhem of Camden. Even in the Piney, though, things have changed for the worse. “You can’t really smell pig shit anymore,” Felix pointed out. “It’s not like when I was a kid, coming here. There’s less pig farming now.”

At Nickels’, I had a $3.50 roast beef sandwich that came with pickle, peppers, horseradish and potato chips. Can’t beat that! There was a sign, “DRUG ACTIVITY WILL NOT BE TOLERATED HERE.” At a Fishtown dive, Teresa the bartender comped my second Guinness, “Welcome to the neighborhood!” There, I talked to a 56-year-old union electrician, Matt, about Poland, the economy, his fishing boat and heroin. We both know people who’ve died from it.

Matt showed me, on his cellphone, a young man nodding on a subway train. A couple years ago, Matt found a friend passed out on the street, so he lifted him onto a shopping cart, pushed him home. The man died soon after from an overdose. “This guy was a football player in high school, man, a super jock, and very popular.” As we chattered, the pleasant smell of marijuana wafted in from the sidewalk.

As Felix and I were leaving Sit On It, a middle-aged black lady stood up and shouted at us, “I love you all! Love you all!”

Wandering around Center City, I enjoyed the bustle and fine, cool weather, but also got reacquainted with the sights of sleeping or panhandling homeless. Near City Hall, I noticed a row of broken glass panes at a subway entrance. I’ve been to maybe 30 countries, and the only one that had the same level of vandalism and graffiti as the US was Germany.

With purple hair, eyebrows and lipstick to accentuate her cadaverous complexion, an out-of-shape, college-aged woman wore a jean vest that had a cupcake on each side. “EAT SHIT” “AND DIE,” they said.

At Thomas Paine Plaza, there’s a multi panel art project celebrating Dreamers, or underage illegal immigrants. One large image shows a Hispanic girl studying a book, Milk and Honey, with these words surrounding her, “Education THINKING Research Success FUTURE Expert SKILLS PROGRESS JOB KNOWLEDGE TRAINING DEVELOPMENT PROFESSIONAL EXPERIENCE ADVANTAGE FOCUS LEARN WORK SOCIAL LEADERSHIP EMPLOYMENT TEST HOPE HARD WORK,” and so on.

Everywhere, there are LOOK UP/SPEAK UP signs to condition citizens to be suspicious of each other. Since the 9/11 false flag, enforced paranoia has become the norm.

Sticker on a steel pole, “THE LEFTIST AGENDA: DIVIDE AND OPPRESS.”

At a bus shelter, a fat man with a vapid expression sat next to a poster advertising the TV show, Arrested Development.

Near City Hall, there’s a white sign with a black arrow, pointing to the ground, “HUB OF HOPE.” I have no idea if it’s a joke.

Three days after I got back, I checked the Inquirer to find out nine Philadelphians had been shot within 18 hours, with five dead. Among the survivors was a 61-year-old man who had been hit in the groin, and a 28-year-old who had been blasted in the face. I was certainly not in East Asia anymore.

Six Temple students have been killed or committed suicide this academic year, with two business majors overdosing from drugs within one week. A 24-year-old was found dead in the library. In 2017, 1,217 Philadelphians died from drug overdoses, up from 907 in 2016. Per capita, Pittsburgh tops the country in drug deaths.

Discussing the opioid crisis last year, I was hissed at by a gaggle of pissy ostriches. One sneered, “What are these places he’s talking about? And the commenters, too? Who are these degenerates? I don’t know a single person or place that fits ANY of this. And I’m no spring chicken.” It is hopeless.

One evening, I ran into a 41-year-old bartender who had been fired, months before, for being so fogged up, she couldn’t give the correct change or even hear a drink order. It didn’t help that Becky also downed shots of Jameson while working.

“You look great, Becky! You really do. The last time I saw you, you were pretty out of it.”

“I know.”

“That guy Jack who gave you pills, he fucked you up!” Handing out pills, Jack got whiskey back.

“The pills did help me, Linh.” Becky’s foot was in extreme pain.

“Jack got you fired.”

“Yes, he did.”

In retrospect, Becky is not all that sorry to be canned, for her boss was an asshole, “Elio kept telling me to not let the Mexicans sit at the bar. ‘They have to sit at the tables,’ he kept saying, but how do you tell people they can’t sit at the bar?! That’s why I came home crying all the time. One time, Elio came in and yelled at me, ‘Why is that guy sitting at the bar?!’”

“I know Elio’s an asshole, but I didn’t know he was that much of an asshole!”

“That’s why he won’t stock Corona or Tecate. Elio doesn’t want Mexicans in his bar.”

“With all the old white guys gone, he should welcome these Mexicans as customers.”

“And they’re good customers, too. He keeps saying they don’t tip, but they do tip. They’re very sweet and never cause any trouble.”

With no work since, Becky’s been supported by her 48-year-old boyfriend. They’ve been together eight years. Volatile, he sometimes beats her.


Two years ago in Brooklyn, I interviewed Noam, a straying Hasid, and we’ve been in touch since. I encouraged Noam to get out of smug, close-minded New York whenever possible, so he could be more exposed to life’s infinite variety. Last Yom Kippur, Noam came to Philly for the first time, and he liked it so much, he returned this Shavuot. Noam emailed me, “I’m actually in Philly again for the weekend, avoiding another Jewish three-day holiday.” Huge family gatherings had become insufferable to the 25-year-old apostate.

From his Airbnb room in Fishtown, Noam walked four miles to the Friendly Lounge to meet me. Along the way, he stopped in Old Philadelphia for a Yuengling or two. “It’s a great old-school bar,” I texted him. One by one, they’re being destroyed. To many people’s dismay, Jack’s Famous Bar, with its 400 brown, dusty bottles of liquor from the 1930’s, has been shuttered by the building’s new Asian owner. It was owned by a bookish Jew who would sit at the back, leaning over a novel. Mel charged but $4 for a cheesesteak. I had planned on stopping by to say hello.

In two years, Noam has made great progress in shedding his Hasidism. He has a job as a driver for a car leasing company and is enrolled in college. “My psychology teacher is this pretty hot Asian woman who dresses like a porn star.” He has read Kafka, Singer, Erik Erikson and Kerouac, among others. His wardrobe of thriftstore clothes has become increasingly casual and colorful. He keeps his beard trimmed and has even shaved his head.

Noam sees me as a sympathetic, advice-dispensing uncle, so I try my best to fulfill this role. Noticing plenty of crusty, pustulent, maroon and chalky scales on his arms and scalp, I cringed, “What the fuck, man! You’ve got to do something about this.”

“It’s the stress. I’ve had it since I was twelve.”

“You’re not going to get laid, looking like this.”

We had been talking a lot about women, just like the last time. Noam informed me that a love interest, Rachel, had gotten married, so he’s now focused on a Taiwanese-Australian with a “temporary boyfriend.”

“I feel so behind,” Noam said in the darkened Friendly. “Growing up, I was told to stay away from all women, as if they were a great source of danger, and even at home, I was not supposed to touch my sister. Ever!”

“That’s pretty extreme!”

“When I was 12, I had my first spermache.”

“A what?”

“A spermache. I had my first ejaculation. I was in sitting in class and feeling extremely claustrophobic. I had never felt so trapped, I just wanted to get out of there, but I couldn’t, then suddenly, it happened, and I felt so relieved, but also fearful and confused. I had no idea what had just happened.”

On television, Jorge Alfaro had just reached on an infield single, plating somebody. Led Zeppelin blared from the juked box.

“All through my teens,” Noam continued, “I felt so much guilt because I was attracted to my male classmates. I just wanted to touch them.”

“You thought you were gay?”

“No, it wasn’t that. Just the sexuality. I didn’t understand why I felt such a strong need to touch.”

“And you didn’t feel this towards girls?”

“There were no girls! I was never around any girl!” Noam leaned back, lit another cigarette then huffed out a disgusted smile. “Recently, I was on a commuter train, and surrounded by all these gorgeous women. They were showing legs and cleavages, so I had an erection, you know. It was so obvious, I thought I might get arrested. Suddenly, this huge black guy came in and sat down. He was manspreading. For some reason, I came right then. I was practically convulsing. I thought surely, everyone knew, but nothing happened.” Noam laughed.

“Man, you must solve this soon, get it out of the way, so you can think straight!” I did add, “But sex, though, isn’t just the act. It’s the totality of being with someone. One step at a time, man. You can be with a girl, and get used to each other, then if it happens, it happens.”

“It almost happened.”

“What did you do?”

“I went to a massage parlor on the Lower East Side.”

“A Chinese place?”

“Yeah, and she touched my penis, gave me a hand job. She was about 32, and good looking too. That was the very first time anyone touched my penis, and I’m not counting myself, of course. That was my very first sexual experience! It cost me $80.”

“You overpaid, but so what! At least you got that out of the way. So did you go back?”

“Yes, I did, three times, but they never let me back in.”

“That’s fucked up. They must have thought you were a cop, man.”

“I think so. I tried another place, but they gave me a guy!”

“That’s funny as shit!”

“I wasn’t going to pay good money to have some guy knead my back, so I insisted on a woman.”

“So did they give you one?”

“Yeah, a 65-year-old!”

“Some of them can look OK,” I smiled.

“This one was super ugly. She shoved a hand in between my butt cheeks, but I felt nothing.”

“What a nightmare.”

“It was. Another time, I had a date with a black girl, and she let me touch her thigh. She was very aggressive. Finally, she said, ‘I want you to come home with me,’ but I couldn’t.”

“Oh man!”

“I was filled with fear.”

“That’s understandable. Hey, are you familiar with the shower scene from the movie, Carrie? It’s very famous.”

“Not at all.”

“It’s this girl with a very religious mother, and she’s in the school shower, after gym class, and she has her first period ever, so she freaks out, because she doesn’t know what’s happening. Screaming, she runs to her classmates for help, but they just laugh at her and humiliate her. Why don’t you pull it up on YouTube.”

As we watched all these supposedly teens with 70’s haircuts pelt a cowering and naked Sissy Spacek with tampons, Noam sighed, “That’s me, man.”


Through Noam, I found out about incel, an internet community of involuntary celibates. Unable to get laid, they rage against women, as well as the men who can bed them. In today’s sexual economy, the beefcakes, “chads,” don’t just snag all the babes, “stacys,” but shag all the plain ones, “beckys,” as well, leaving no nookies for the weak-chinned, pencil-necked, stoop-shouldered, muscle-free or just plain socially-awkward dudes.

Before allegedly killing 10 people with a rented van in Toronto this year, 25-year-old Alek Minassian declared on FaceBook, “The Incel Rebellion has already begun! We will overthrow all the Chads and Stacys! All hail the Supreme Gentleman Elliot Rodger!” In 2014, a similarly sexually-frustrated Rodger murdered six people, before killing himself.

Much has already been written about the incels, but most commenters have only focused on their worst, most hateful aspects, without much sympathy for their sexual starvation. While no man can demand access to a woman’s body, it’s also true that access to sex, love and acceptance is becoming increasingly hard to come by for more Americans. A recent NBC headline, “Americans are lonelier than ever—but ‘Gen Z’ may be the loneliest,” so the trend is towards more social isolation. Confirming this withdrawal and defeat are spreading addictions to porn, video games and opioids.

In this winners take all culture, there’s a widening sex gap between the haves and have nots. While some are sexual Walmarts, many more must lick whatever scraps flutter their ways. Those who can’t get any are still titillated nonstop, for this is the land of the endless comeons. Masturbating, they can consume sex as spectacles.

On June 1st in Las Vegas, at least a thousand people are expected to participate in the world’s biggest orgy ever. Couples must pay $200, and it’s $25 for single women. Since no single men are allowed, the incels can stay home and seethe. The current record is 500 people, established in Tokyo in 2006. Japan, too, has a mushrooming population of sexless miserables.

Pushing cockteases as much as bombs, we must expect eruptions.

Linh Dinh’s latest books are Postcards from the End of America (non-fiction) and A Mere Rica (poetry). He maintains a regularly updated photo blog.

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  1. Biff says:

    I’ve been to maybe 30 countries, and the only one that had the same level of vandalism and graffiti as the US was Germany.

    Wow! Surprising. I’ve never been to Germany, but I always invisioned them as neat and orderly. So goes the stereotype.

    • Replies: @jacques sheete
    , @J.Ross
  2. RWS says:

    “I’ve been to maybe 30 countries, and the only one that had the same level of vandalism and graffiti as the US was Germany.”

    Two of the major countries suffering large, continuing, unassimilating immigration. Much changed from the cleanliness and orderliness noticeable even a generation or so ago.

    • Replies: @Dumbo
  3. Incels as the oppressed… that’s a very interesting idea. Marxists can turn themselves inside out rationalizing theft and justifying property damage… it would be a wonderful spectacle if someone with a career deathwish would try to do the same thing for the sexual economy. What is abuse and rape but the frustrated attempt of the have-nots to defy and liberate themselves from the institutionalized concentration of sexual wealth etc etc. Talk about heads exploding!

    • Agree: Byrresheim
  4. JackOH says:

    Your exchange with Noam put a smirky grin on my face. I’ve wondered how much of the talk about sexual revolution is just bullshit cover for chaos and uncertainty in markets for sex and romance. Seems to me the worst spot for a straight White guy to be in is overeducated and underemployed. Working class girls think you’re a weirdo or a fag. Educated women think you’re manipulable arm candy. (When I told Gladys back in the 1990s I’d had 1500 books in my library, she gave me a simpering “Ain’t that nice” look. I thought: this is over.)

    Thinking of Harry and Meghan’s marriage, I wonder how much Harry would have lost, if anything, if he’d been constrained to look for marriage material within his class.

    Thanks for your Postcards book, Linh, which I’m working through.

    • Replies: @Anonymous
    , @Anon
  5. Anonymous[680] • Disclaimer says:

    Noam’s stories made me laugh out loud. Keep in touch with this guy, Linh. He’s so hopeless yet so refreshingly honest. I hope he scores big in the long run and tells every step of the way!

  6. Always enjoy reading Linh Dinh and will miss his observations on the US.

  7. The former jock who died from an overdose is happier now.

    “I declared that the dead, who had already died, are happier than the living, who are still alive.” Ecclesiastes 4:2

    Yet an aborted fetus is happiest.

    “But better than both is the one who has never been born, who has not seen the evil that is done under the sun.” Ecclesiastes 4:3

    At least incels are causing no harm.

    Better Never to Have Been: The Harm of Coming into Existence. Oxford University Press, 2015).

    • Replies: @njguy73
  8. @Biff

    I’ve been to maybe 30 countries, and the only one that had the same level of vandalism and graffiti as the US was Germany.

    Wow! Surprising. I’ve never been to Germany, but I always invisioned them as neat and orderly. So goes the stereotype.

    That is surprising. Back in the ’80’s Germany was spotless and graffiti was practically non existent. By the mid ’90s things were changing, but I had no idea that they were now as bad as in the US. That’s truly tragic.

    • Replies: @Peter Akuleyev
  9. Tbbh says:

    There is no such thing as an involuntary celibate. ANYBODY can get laid. The problem with “incels” is that they aren’t willing to accept something less than their ideal.

  10. Linh, this is great stuff. I love your writing, both the style of your prose and the content & context. You say it without saying it. It engenders many thought threads.

    Can I repost it at my blog?

    • Replies: @Linh Dinh
    , @MacNucc11
  11. Anon[253] • Disclaimer says:

    I rarely read this writer, now I understand better why.

    He talks about being “exposed to life’s infinite variety”, but he only chooses the depressive, lost, maladaptive bits. And intersperses said “bits” with talk about food. His is a wholly detached, superficial coexistence with others. Human persons as bugs to be dissected, categorized and presented to the public.

    Life at its senseless, hopeless best. How very sad.

    • Replies: @Linh Dinh
  12. Anonymous[883] • Disclaimer says:

    Incels should do no fap. After 35 days of no jerking you will never want anything sexual ever again.

    • Replies: @Remonster
    , @L Woods
  13. Anonymous[883] • Disclaimer says:

    Men need to go on strike by doing No Fap and shunning the sexual urge like Gandhi. That is the only way we will ever win. We live in a society of compulsive eating, sex, consumerism, and excess. We need consciousness in our life. More sexuality only makes the problem worse.

    The elites want us to be slaves to our compulsions, so that we have no free will. Only when you can reject everything can you truly become a free man.

    • Replies: @Bay Area Guy
  14. Amazing: after fifty years with the pill and children of Sixties free love seekers; millennials are no closer to sexual harmony than the Gay Nighties or the Roaring Twenties people were.  Is it something in the water, or our DNA, or who knows what demons are loose in the USA.  Everything changes but nothing really changes except the script we follow soon leads to the same old, same old.

  15. VolInPdx says:

    Great article Linh. I wish you put out More but i know you’re a busy man. I hope things are moving along to your satisfaction. I’m sure moving half way round the worldisn’t easy.
    It’s off topic but i value your keen insight. How do you expect the biz with Iran to go? Another war just seems impossible to me but I’d be glad to hear your thoughts. War or no war? I say no war.
    Thanks. Guinness is the finest beer the world ever produced. I could go for 5-6 right now and it’s only 815 am.
    Take care friend.

  16. Dumbo says:

    I don’t think in Germany it is only immigrants that are behind graffitti.
    It is the societal decay. The fact of being basically an occupied country.
    Also most Grafitti is done by Antifa types as part of their of aesthetics of ugliness.

  17. Anon[717] • Disclaimer says:

    Dear JackOH,
    Intellectual qualifications are secondary, try finding a woman with a good heart. They like men stably employed and committed to them and any children, even if they are not the highest earners. Nice manners a definite plus. Women who frequent churches might know available and attractive women, and set you up. But they’ll screen whether you are marriage-minded or not.

    Sex without love is disintegrative to the persons involved.

    • Agree: RadicalCenter
    • LOL: L Woods
    • Replies: @JackOH
  18. Guinness is the finest beer the world ever produced.

    You must be kidding. German beers are the best, but you have to go local and dunkels. In Asia, (at least in Thailand, Japan and the Philippines) even supermarket beer is better.

    • Replies: @RadicalCenter
  19. @Tbbh

    There is no such thing as an involuntary celibate. ANYBODY can get laid.

    I marvel at that a lot. It also appears that anybody can breed and they pretty much do. Some amazing stuff out there.

    It’s proof that G-wd is a sadist and a perv.

  20. Logan says:

    Much has already been written about the incels, but most commenters have only focused on their worst, most hateful aspects, without much sympathy for their sexual starvation.

    I’ve noticed this too. Male losers are amusing and unworthy of concern.

  21. Anon[159] • Disclaimer says:

    Takkiyah Twinks are not amused…….

  22. This is the first I’ve heard of the word “Incels.” But, eons ago, as a pathologically shy young man, I had a terrible time trying to connect with women. So, I can identify. Now, after considerable study, I hypothesize that much trouble comes from the fact that far too many males in the US have been genitally mutilated (circumcised) as babies. For a lot of men, it has an enormously injurious impact on their sexual self-confidence, and thus their entire lives, even though most remain unaware of the damage done to them. It would not surprise me at all if the vast majority of Incels have been circumcised.

    • Replies: @UrbaneFrancoOntarian
  23. Johann says:

    I lived in Germany in the seventies and found the country spotless, the people friendly and cultured and the life style great. I grew up in post WWII America and was constantly told how horrible Germany and everything German was but I did major in German and taught it.I almost stayed there and sometime think I made a mistake. An old American colleague of mine did stay and raised a family and has been married three times, but he tells me today things have changed . He does not really criticize modern Germany and that is telling me something. Linh I just finished your Postcards and boy was I depressed and in a blue funk. Things really are that awful?

  24. @follyofwar

    Not necessarily nowadays with porn everywhere on the internet. I remember being ashamed of having an intact foreskin due to the fact that every porn star is circumcised.

    I thought I was the odd one out, until I got older and did a little research.

    • LOL: Mike P
    • Replies: @follyofwar
  25. JackOH says:

    Thanks, but, in my 60s now, I’m pretty much out of the dating and romance market.

    But, getting big-picture-ish, my definition of the good society is one in which instinctual needs and national policies are more or less in tune with one another, subject to the boundaries of law and good sense. My personal feeling is the vast social engineering of the past half-century has so diminished the ordinary White guy, that we may be in very serious trouble. This “incel” thing may be symptomatic.

  26. @Anonymous

    Men need to go on strike by doing No Fap and shunning the sexual urge like Gandhi.

    For starters, Gandhi wasn’t exactly a celibate ascetic. He was actually quite a pervert.

    Putting that aside, being an “incel” is more of a psychological condition than a physiological affliction. As long as lonely men feel a burning sense of shame on account of being single, the No Fap campaign won’t do much good.

    The real problem is that we live in a status-obsessed society that makes significant numbers of men feel like garbage. Being an incel isn’t actually that terrible – until one is constantly bombarded by a “sex sells” pop culture.

    More than anything else, disenfranchised incels can free themselves by renouncing mainstream American culture. The obsession with getting laid, female hypergamy, and so on only gives women the very sexual power that’s responsible for incels’ plight in the first place.

    Unplugging is a more effective way to go on strike.

    • Replies: @Anon
    , @Stonehands
    , @L Woods
  27. Linh Dinh says: • Website
    @Cold N. Holefield

    Hi Cold N. Holefield,

    Repost away! I was just at Donna’s Bar in a barely hanging-on Polish corner of Port Richmond. I had a plate of bigos, pierogi and Zywiec beer, and the people were lovely. If only life could be this sane all the time, everywhere.


    • Replies: @Cold N. Holefield
  28. Anon[216] • Disclaimer says:
    @Bay Area Guy

    Pure Celibacy, is practiced by the Budhist monks of South east Asia, who must remain completely non sexual. This practice greatly reduces men’s sexual arousal toward women. Only those who have tried this for a few months can fully understand its enlightening qualities. Many men who can do this will remain celebate for the rest of their lives, it is a very addictive lifestyle choice.

  29. Linh Dinh says: • Website

    It’s very telling that you see my friends as “bugs,” while you sign your name as Anon[253]. You’re the only bug here, I’m afraid.

  30. I really enjoyed this piece. The gritty realism shined through. I can associate with it. Living in an ideal suburb, small town with money, trees and great schools, if I was an addict a quick car ride 15 minutes down the road could score me some killer dope.

    In Massachusetts, beautiful small towns and suburban cities lay sprawled with poverty stricken dumps never far away. To your average sheltered asshole, these poor places are to be avoided at all cost. Fuck that. Since I was old enough to drive, exploring these “dangerous places” has been a hobby for me. I load my bike on the car and take a trip to the urban jungle. Cruising around a city full of drug addicts, girls dressed in the shortest shorts, people hanging out at all hours doing whatever it takes to get high or blow a load…. I have to be fucked up but I really enjoy the environment.

    Maybe it’s because I don’t live it. I can go home to my nice place with cut lawn. I can jump in the pool. I can sleep well knowing my car won’t be broken into.

    One day I was walking around the poorest city in the state. Heading into a thrift store, an extremely hurt guy asked if I could spare a dollar. When I handed him $20 he almost fucking died. He started to cry and thanked me over and over. He’s probably dead today.

    I gave the guy a fuckin twenty. It meant so much to him. So little to me. I make so many twenties a day it’s nothing to spare one.

    Our country is full of hurt people. The American Dream for them is dead. They are living a nightmare. Reflecting on their life too painful and pointless. Not all are bad people. Undiagnosed health conditions, feelings of futility, past abuse and other issues haunt their souls.

    I’m just a lucky guy. My success isn’t all hard work. No fucking way. My success is often just looking at my failures correctly. It helps me stay afloat and rise bit by bit.

    Help people, listen to them, give people a chance. Someone did these things for you.

    Give them a $20. If they spend it on drugs who gives a fuck? You might do drugs if your life was one giant painful experience since birth.

    Right on to the Jewish dude who went to a massage parlor. I get laid no problem but I’ll still every now and then visit a nice Asian massage parlor. It’s fucking great. A girlfriend or wife will never give a massage like that.

    • Replies: @JackOH
    , @Pericles
  31. J.Ross says: • Website

    Germany’s leftist hooligans are an unofficial arm of the state. No laws against them are enforced. There was a headline a few New Years’ ago: a police chief scolding inmates of Germanistan that nothing would be done about their cars getting torched. They were trying to do the same thing in the States (even the guy who was going to derail a train at the inauguration has been released) but the tide is turning and Antifa’s numbers here have never been healthy.
    Plus, if you try to torch anybody’s car here, where people have rights, you’re not going to have a good time.

  32. njguy73 says:
    @Echoes of History

    There’s an old story about two rabbis contemplating life, and one says, “When I look at the suffering in life, I wonder if it is better never to have been born at all.”

    The other responds, “But how many are that lucky? One in ten thousand, perhaps?”

  33. @Linh Dinh

    Linh, that is where my father grew up and my grandparents had a grocery store there where they lived above it. It’s great to hear it’s still a thriving community. It was an incredible community in its day, the Polish community of Philadelphia.

    I’m jealous about the Polish food. When we were growing up, every family function required Kielbasa. It was mandatory. I remember when my grandfather passed away in ’77, it was nearly a crisis because they almost weren’t able to get the kielbasa for the meal afterwards because the person responsible forgot. The Pollocks were more upset about that than they were about my grandfather passing. The Poles take their kielbasa very seriously. When they laid my grandfather to rest, he had a six inch piece of kielbasa in his arteries. I’m sure the maggots had a field day.

    My grandparents kept a lot people fed during the Great Depression. They extended credit to a great many people to help keep them afloat during the hard times and they were well-liked and greatly respected as a result. That’s mostly gone, but, as you say, there are still pockets that are not only hanging on but thriving and that’s great to see and hear.

    Thanks for allowing me to repost it. I dig your vibe and I’d like to share it with my audience as diminutive as that audience may be in comparison to this venue.

    • Replies: @Tony
  34. @Tbbh

    I completely agree. Anybody can get laid. This idea of Incels is absurd. I’m not sure what’s wrong with them; I’m just sure that something is wrong with them.

    A guess? Some guys might not want to put out the work anymore to get laid (i.e., brush their teeth, comb their hair, talk to someone who has an interest other than what they are interested in, etc.), but that’s their problem and no one else’s.

    • Replies: @L Woods
  35. @jacques sheete

    Well, there’s no accounting for taste. But I never liked Guinness much, and of course I’ve had dozens of german beers better than Guinness. Much more partial to helles Bier als dunkles, though.

    I have never, I mean never forgotten the taste of the beer I had in Munich. Nothing like that. Almost doesn’t seem related to most beers here or elsewhere.

  36. This article was hard to read. First, I was expecting a discussion about opioids some manner of involuntary celibacy. As a practicing celibate I thought it might be interesting.

    But it was preceded by a long narrative discussion filled with colorful language that didn’t lend much color. Even the rather crass visit into people’s personal practices lost any meaning to the article.

    Noam Chomsky’s personal foibles and attraction crisis splayed out made as much sense to me men being attracted to men. Or mass relational exploits in physical intimacy —

    As far as the incels, chance, opportunity, willingness, effort, exposure and intent will change one’s opportunity to be with a woman. These are choices and not having a partner is not involuntary. Unless they mean they are not married and therefore are celibate, the claim is like I am not a thief because I can’t find a store to break into or something to steal. Nor is it really celibacy. Celibacy is not derived from a lack of opportunity as described by incels. I would if I could just find the right one —

    For followers of Christ celibacy is a practice until married or until death in either case it’s beneficial for spouses as well as to the honor of Christ.

    Now a lot of psychiatrists and counselors are about telling people that not having relations is unhealthy — they don’t have any evidence, but they will prognosticate about with certainty.


    Celibacy is the result of choice, or some psydical dysfunction.

    Now maybe I missed it but aside from the rug bartender references — and scattered users, I completely missed the point.

    Now maybe that is a blessing in disguise.

  37. @Bay Area Guy

    You both make powerful statements; yours for “seekers”- anons for “avatars.”

  38. JackOH says:
    @Guy Smiley

    “A girlfriend or wife will never give a massage like that.”

    GS, LOL in a good way. Best sex I ever had was with prostitutes many years ago. It was a very brief period in my life; I may be on some universal shit list somewhere anyway.

    Agree with you the American Dream is dead for maybe the lowest quartile of Americans. Those in the next quartile, with incomes maybe up to $60 thousand a year, well, they’re a little shaky.

  39. Hey Linh, you might appreciate this considering your familiarity with Philadelphia.

    I don’t want to argue that contraception is necessarily a bad thing, but it is interesting to note how the advent of it was used strategically, as is discussed in the following article, to wipe out a potential threat to WASP rule. It’s no coincidence Mexicans and Indians are more pliable when it comes to Liberal (for purposes of the article below, Liberal and Democrat are two separate but related things) politics, and what two groups have flourished in America since the legislation passed in 1965 while Irish and Polish communities no longer exist and the descendants of those communities have been scattered and fractured, dispossessed of their former communities and in many cases religion and therefore no longer an independent political threat to the WASP elite? In fact, even their tenuous Middle Class status is being eroded and Europeans who arrived at the turn of last century are quickly being replaced in the Middle Class by the wave arriving from Mexico and India after 1965. It has nothing to do with race, but everything to do with culture. Polish and Irish are white-skinned, but they were targeted for dissolution by white-skinned WASPs to be replaced by darker-skinned pawns.

    Ethnic Cleansing, Philadelphia Style

    by E. Michael Jones, Ph.D.


    We have all heard this explanation a million times before. It is the regime’s official explanation for why cities like Philadelphia look like downtown Sarajevo, put forth in the regime’s organ for the benefit of the regime and its supporters. It is about as accurate as saying that the PHA has no intention of blowing up the East Falls Projects. Beyond that, the official race explanation is one of the regime’s main legitimizing devices and the main justification for social engineering experiments like busing and an enormously expensive, enormously ineffective public school system that not only can’t teach its students how to read, it can’t even prevent them from bringing guns to school.

    I’m saying now not only that the white flight/white racism story isn’t true, history has proved that, I’m saying this story is a deliberately manufactured lie similar to the assertion that the PHA had no intention of blowing up the East Falls Projects, manufactured to cover up something much more sinister, namely, the American version of ethnic cleansing. Integration is another word for ethnic cleansing. Race, as Lenin recognized when he invited Claude McKay to the Third Interntional in Moscow in 1922, was always the best vehicle for overturning the social order in America. In the hands of the liberal elite after World War II, racial politics combined with the sexual revolution was seen as the ultimate solution to what Paul Blanshard and his friends were calling the “Catholic Problem.” Since Catholic political power was concentrated in ethnic neighborhoods in the big cities of the north, the ethnic cleansing of those neighborhoods in the name of racial “integration” meant the dispersal of Catholic ethnics throughout the suburbs and the end of Catholics as a significant political force; the goal of all ethnic cleansing whether here or in Bosnia. Segregation is a word that first got used by people like Paul Blanshard with regard to religion and not race; segregated schools in the parlance of the liberal elite referred not to race but religion. The first “integration” problem, according to Professor John T. McGreevy of Harvard University’s department of history, was the problem posed by Catholic separatism:

    Pervasive Catholic separatism, on philosophical matters and in schools, hospitals and social organizations, posed an “integration” problem. How would Catholics become democrats? To respond as A Smith did, that Catholics would always remain loyal citizens, missed the point. Democracy was a culture, not a set of propositions. Catholics obviously lived among Americans, but were they of them? These concerns had begun to animate leading liberal intellectuals in the years during and following World War I, as suggested by John Dewey’s wartime investigation of Philadelphia’s Polish community. Dewey regretfully concluded that the Polish American community lay in thrall to antidemocratic interests. Priests presided over political meetings; parishes sent delegates to national coventions.

    Paul Blanshard, then a graduate student at Columbia University, briefly worked as part of Dewey’s team, and Paul’s brother Brand, a prominent Yale University philosopher, stayed for the entire summer. Brand Blanshard’s final report was less circumspect than Dewey’s overview. “The test of any institution or society,” he wrote, “is . . . the extent to which it enables and encourages every member of it to enjoy complete freedom of growth.” Polish Catholicism failed. “It is a world which is simply not our world, a world in which independent criticism and disinterested science is and must remain unknown, a world which still abounds with the primitive concepts and fancies of the middle ages.” The church’s influence presented a “many-sided and in some ways impossible barrier to the real democratization of the communities it controls.” (Journal of American History, June 1997, pp. 105-6).

    During the fiscal year 1962-63, the American Friends Service Committee spent $97,137, much of it supplied by the Rockefeller Brothers Fund, to “bring about more democratic living patterns” by having white front men buy up houses in all-white ethnic neighborhoods and then turn them over to blacks, causing in most instances financial panic and mass exodus. The practice is generally known as blockbusting, and is hugely profitable to real estate speculators, but the Quakers saw it as having a deeper purpose. “Diversified neighborhoods,” the AFSC wrote in its 1961 pamphlet Homes and Community…”have ‘built-in’ lessons in democracy. Lessons in the dignity of the individual and respect for his contributions to society. Such communities build citizens more secure in their knowledge of democracy and better able to share its responsibilities.”

    The Rockefeller-funded “Integrated Housing Program” was, in other words, the practical solution to the problems “Polish Catholicism” posed to democracy in the Philadelphia-based study that Dewey and Blanshard did in Bridesburg during World War I. “Diversified neighborhoods” is just the American term for ethnic cleansing. State Senator Martin Mullen discovered this first hand, when his neighborhood in Most Blessed Sacrament Parish in Southwest Philadelphia got ethnically cleansed over the period from 1966 to 1976. In 1964 Mullen was the liberal regime’s public enemy number one for the role he played in funding the government’s entrance into the distribution of contraceptives.

    The last time I spoke here, I talked about how contraceptives caused drive-by shootings, how over the summer of 1965, the regime decided that the contraceptive, not providing jobs for black fathers, was to be the solution to this country’s welfare problem and how as a result of this sort of ideological gasoline poured on a social fire, black illegitimacy soared from 20 to over 70 percent. Professor McGreevy’s article covers the period from 1928 to 1960, but it is clear that the “Catholic Problem” did not go away with the election of John F. Kennedy to the presidency. In fact, it only began there in earnest. The demographic surge among Catholics that would come to be known as the baby boom was causing people with an eye for demographics, like the Rockefellers, much concern. In fact, the demographic handwriting was on the wall; the United States was on its way to becoming a Catholic country. But the Enlightenment counterattack was waiting in the wings. Ethnic cleansing can eliminate the political power of people in a particular place by moving them some place else, but it will not provide a long term solution to demographic increase, because as the oppressed group increases, it will also take over the areas it moves into. The long-term solution to the “Catholic problem” had to blunt their demographic power. The long-term solution to the Catholic problem was the contraceptive.

    The contraceptive solved the “Catholic problem” in two ways: First of all, it blunted the demographic surge that the Malthusian liberal Protestant establishment found so alarming. Catholic voters had elected John F. Kennedy in 1960. In Philadelphia at Independence Hall on July 4, 1962, a Catholic president, a Catholic governor of Pennsylvania, and a Catholic mayor of Philadelphia all bowed their heads in prayer as Archbishop Krol invoked God’s blessing on what many people still considered a Protestant country. Before long, Catholics were going to elect a president more amenable to the Church than John Kennedy, perhaps someone who had not gone to Harvard and, therefore, less determined to follow their interests. The second way the contraceptive solved the “Catholic problem” was by dividing the Church into liberal and conservative factions depending on where a particular person stood on contraception. Catholic academe, following the Notre Dame inspired Land o’ Lakes statement of 1967 followed the lure of funding and fell completely into the hands of the regime that wanted to weaken the Church by promoting the contraceptive.

    More at link.

  40. No doubt, Linh, you’ve heard the stories about Frank Rizzo. He was a real character. He presided over Philadelphia’s ethnic cleansing although I’m sure he was largely clueless to it. He was a tool like most everyone else. Pawns in this game of Cultural Musical Chairs.

    Here’s Rizzo at his finest. It makes me laugh every time I watch it. It’s iconic and Rizzo is iconic, love him or hate him.

    • Replies: @Cold N. Holefield
  41. @Cold N. Holefield

    You are a lush — I can tell by lookin’ at ya!!

    I fall on the floor gasping for air every time I listen to it.

    It’s priceless.

    It’s my Father.

  42. @UrbaneFrancoOntarian

    Porn exacerbates the problems of the Incels. And whacking off to porn, if done to excess, can make one impotent. Best to stay away from all porn. Urbane, I see that you eventually discovered how lucky you are that your parents left you intact.

  43. MacNucc11 says:
    @Cold N. Holefield

    Its his style that puts you off. He packs a ton of detail and not a lot of opinion in his pieces. I find it all very fascinating. When someone goes to another country I don’t give a damn about the tourist attractions. What I am interested in is what you call depressing; vandalism, poverty, street life, music, food, etc. He often lets the people he meets tell the story.

    • Replies: @Cold N. Holefield
  44. Remonster says:

    Better yet 40 days and 40 nights. If it was good enough for Jesus it is good enough for me.

  45. @MacNucc11

    Linh’s style doesn’t put me off. Neither does Rizzo’s. I’m amused by Rizzo and I enjoy Linh on a much deeper intellectual and artistic level.

    Linh has the ability to occupy both hemispheres of his brain concomitantly and it shows in his prose. Come to think of it, Rizzo and Linh are an interesting juxtaposition. Rizzo spent 99.9% of his internal time in the reptilian brain and never visited his atrophied hemispheres, hence his need to pummel the enemy and everyone and everything was the enemy if they resisted him in any way. If Rizzo had to jail or kill everyone to keep them safe, by golly, that’s what would be done. He had zero tolerance for crumb bum lushes and Philly had plenty of them and still does.

    You can tell they are crumb bum lushes just by looking at them. Crumb bum lushes, for those of us in the know, have neon signs tatted on their foreheads that say, “hey, look at me, I’m a crumb bum lush.” To have this gift that Rizzo and I have, to be able to see that neon sign on people’s foreheads that says “hey, look at me, I’m a crumb bum lush” is more a curse than a blessing. Some call it a gift, but it’s not. It haunts you. Everywhere you look these crumb bum lush’s neon signs are blinkering. It’s blinding. A burden. Sometimes it’s so overwhelming, I consider joining them and becoming a crumb bum lush myself. Maybe one day I will. Maybe I already am and just don’t know it. Maybe we all are.

  46. Tony says:
    @Cold N. Holefield

    Polish food? Please. They serve that and English food to prisoners as punishment.

    • Replies: @Cold N. Holefield
  47. @Tony

    Polish food? Please. They serve that and English food to prisoners as punishment.

    Lock me up and throw away the key if this is what they’re serving in prison. I’d be so high all the time on poppy seeds, I’d hardly notice I’m incarcerated. Makowiec & Netflix is all I’d need ’til my last breath, bars be damned. I’m a simple man. I don’t need much. I think I was a Monk or a Homeless Person in my previous life. That, or I was Hitler.

    Makowiec: The Most Scandalous Cake in the World?

  48. Randy says:

    The bit about not letting Mexicans sit at the bar strikes as bs. “Hey Mr. Mexican, go sit at the tables you can’t sit at the bar.” Yeah, that would work.

  49. @jacques sheete

    Back in the ’80′s Germany was spotless and graffiti was practically non existent.


    Maybe in East Germany. I lived in Nuremberg in 1983 and grafitti was already fairly common. There is even a lot of graffiti in Poland, a country with no immigrant problem.

    The problem in Germany is that graffiti is perceived as “cool” and anti-bourgeois by far too many people. I blame the 1968ers personally.

  50. Cathy says:

    Definitely a fulfilment of “because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold.” (Matthew 24:12) All of life’s very best to you, Linh. As a US refugee of 36 yrs. I felt the chill at 11 yrs old & knew I had to escape, & years later I found my path out.

    • Replies: @JackOH
  51. Bronson says:

    Generation Z has grown up in an environment of “everybody, no matter what their effort level, should get the same stuff just for drawing breath” – they feel very entitled to pretty much everything – no effort required. Add to that, the fact that most women, no matter their true Sexual Market Value, feel that they are “princesses” and deserve Bruce Wayne or Tony Stark no matter how ugly, out of shape, or toxic their personality may be. They’ve been taught hypergamy by all forms of “entertainment” a.k.a. subconscious programming. Just go on to any dating site and read the women’s profiles – you will see endless references to what they expect/demand with virtually no mention of what they bring to the table.

    Add to this, the studies that show that 80% of women find 80%-90% of men unacceptable for relationships (while 80% of men find 80% of women acceptable) and you can start to see the reasons that movements like MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) – i.e. eschewing women (not hating them – just not pursuing them any more) is taking off. Women have embraced the idea that all of the things that make them valuable to men are “oppression” – and therefore their value to men is plummeting.

    Toxic Feminism – it’s useful idiots, leaders, and financiers – has done (arguably) irreparable damage to Western Cultures – which is precisely what it was designed to do.

    I can’t help but be reminded of one of Mother Shipton’s Prophesies (circa 1524):

    There’ll be a sign for all to see
    be sure that it will certain be.

    Then love shall die and marriage cease
    and nations wane as babes decrease.

    And wives shall fondle cats and dogs
    and men live much the same as hogs.

    • Replies: @Anonymous
    , @Saxon
  52. L Woods says:

    Spoken like another posturing blowhard with no inkling of what he’s talking about.

  53. L Woods says:

    35 days of “dating” in DC has much the same effect

    • LOL: RadicalCenter
  54. JackOH says:

    Cathy, you’re an American ex-pat? Can you give us a quick summary of your rationale? (I’d thought about leaving in the 1990s. Career reasons, and a surprisingly strong #2 reason was I was fed up with America’s truly odious political discourse.)

    • Replies: @Cathy
  55. L Woods says:
    @Bay Area Guy

    This is correct. Our culture is female driven. Unsurprisingly therefore, we’re constantly being told how very important sex and female approval are to one’s status and personal fulfillment. The “losers” of this sordid, idiocratic scramble (and inevitably in a liberalized marketplace, a substantial number will lose, and a much higher number will not really win) are of course treated with utmost (but non-physical) cruelty, as one would again expect in a female-dominated society. And of course, every swinging dick will never miss a chance to posture about “losers” so as to signal that he’s got his.

    All of this is to say of course that modern American “culture” is disgusting and can’t die soon enough.

    • Replies: @JackOH
  56. L Woods says:
    @Pincher Martin

    So much ignorant, braindead boomer posting in this thread.

  57. JackOH says:
    @L Woods

    L Woods, your comment brought to mind an easygoing acquaintance whose brief marriage left him big-time brain-fried and wallet-fucked. They both worked at the same place, and his wife would pick up his paycheck along with hers. She’d cash both checks, then disappear for a day or a weekend. He was angry, confused. She made excuses. Turned out she was “partying” with a pro sports team about a 90-minute drive away. I’m not close to the guy, but a friend of his told me the “partying” amounted to drugs and sex with pro ball players. I didn’t know the guy before his marriage, but he gives the impression of being a broken guy.

    Yep, I think feminist ideology, when translated to street level, has “empowered” a lot of women to act like slobs.

  58. Anonymous[415] • Disclaimer says:

    Thank you! Finally, someone mentions that average and outright unattractive women have some how deluded themselves into thinking that deserve the top men. They’ve been allowed to become rabid narcissists and that behavior has been encouraged in the name of…Girl Power, I guess?

    It should also be noted that the aftermath of the #MeToo movement means that women will now claim harassment at the drop of a hat, even for the dreaded crime of making them “uncomfortable.”

  59. Saxon says:

    Women rate 80% of men as below average but men rate women on a standard bell curve, that’s true.

    So what happens when you remove any sort of consequences for women’s bad sexual behavior is you get them throwing themselves at a small percentage of unusually attractive men until they’re old and used up complaining about not being able to find any “good men.”

    You end up with a situation where 1/4 of Norwegian men never father any children.

    And probably similar in Japan, really.

    No reason to believe it’s different anywhere else the sexual mores and legal systems have been aligned in such a way. The whole sexual revolution thing was a bad idea.

  60. Cathy says:

    My rationale? I smelled the lies at an early age & with the JFK smokescreen, at 11 yrs old I knew I was on to it. “4 dead in Ohio” topped it off, so I was truly ready when my life’s train said, “Hop aboard! We’re outta here!” Left in ‘72, so actually it’s been 46 yrs. Didn’t know exactly where I was going, but knew exactly what I was leaving. The boat has to be in motion before the rudder can take effect. So one step & one gust of wind at a time, & as my new life unfolded I was & am still so happy I followed that ever-faithful Voice whispering, “This is the way, walk ye in it.” We are free to choose the paths we walk and free also to experience the value or lack thereof. And one of the main aspects of life I’ve experienced is that people, deep down, don’t care so much about how much you know; they want to know how much you care.

    • Replies: @JackOH
  61. JackOH says:

    Cathy, thanks, and bless you.

    I exercised due diligence (I suppose) when I thought of emigrating from the States. (BTW-I stayed.) Why did I feel so liberated at the thought of leaving? and so on. Was I just conning myself? I came up with a passel of answers, I suppose. Maybe one way of summing up those answers is something like: America left me. The America of commonsense decency seemed to have disappeared into racketeerized politics. I wasn’t a part of that; I just couldn’t play ball. Still can’t.

    Thanks again, Cathy.

  62. Dr. Doom says:

    You know Mein Kampf is rather dull for most of the book I find. Let me sum it up easily.
    Give the Jews enough time and they’ll get rid of all the people who DON’T want them dead.

  63. Mishra says:

    The very last sentence in the article.

    This is one of the few articles I saw which even mentioned their names. Most just said “Two New Jersey men…”

  64. Pericles says:
    @Guy Smiley

    In Massachusetts, beautiful small towns and suburban cities lay sprawled with poverty stricken dumps never far away. To your average sheltered asshole, these poor places are to be avoided at all cost. Fuck that. Since I was old enough to drive, exploring these “dangerous places” has been a hobby for me. I load my bike on the car and take a trip to the urban jungle. Cruising around a city full of drug addicts, girls dressed in the shortest shorts, people hanging out at all hours doing whatever it takes to get high or blow a load…. I have to be fucked up but I really enjoy the environment.

    Maybe it’s because I don’t live it. I can go home to my nice place with cut lawn. I can jump in the pool. I can sleep well knowing my car won’t be broken into.

    I sense the potential for a great movie here. Just listen to the above as intro voice over.

  65. “Much has already been written about the incels, but most commenters have only focused on their worst, most hateful aspects”

    There is no worst or hateful aspect to inceldom – the vast majority of incels haven’t heard of the term* and wouldn’t define themselves as such. Their only shared characteristic is not being terribly attractive to women.

    I can think of a couple – the well paid, intelligent IT chap who eats too much and exercises too little, the just-about-functional but not very bright guy who’s still at home at 31 – neither are hateful types.

    It’s definitely harder for a woman to be incel – she basically has to be morbidly obese from a very early age.

    * although that might be changing – I can imagine some of the young bucks in a workplace playing “who are the incels here?“.

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