It is in the spirit of human intercourse, untrammelled by paywalls and anonymous peer reviews, to freely exchange ideas and reflect on life. In that light I reproduce here, for greater public attention, comment No 41 on my post “Intelligence and General Knowledge”. Good books have been based on less.
“This is true in my experience – also true is that women (90% of my colleagues, and 100% of my mentors in long career as man in human services/education) enjoy a very similar advantage over men when it comes to communication (in terms of affective comprehension, attentive consultation, co-operation and consensus-building).
A happy and long-lasting marriage is a reflection of this simple biological fact of life. In a successful (increasingly rare) partnership, a man and a woman complement one another in using their differing intellectual and social problem-solving skills together to cope with whatever life throws at them.
It is a commonplace among men that women “talk too much”, but a wise husband learns to tune out some of his wife’s ‘distracting’ verbalization, because he has learnt that it is an absolutely necessary component of female ratiocination and genius – just as his wife has learnt to overlook his apparent self-absorption and obsession with factoids and hobbies.
Arguments caused by these differences are crucial tests of both partners’ ability to learn about their own abilities and limitations, as well as their ability to appreciate another person’s perception of reality under stress – to support one another, to ‘deepen their love’ and to continue to build their lives together. It takes much patience, giving, and forgiving of oneself – as much as of the other person, so that that person does not become a stranger.
Unfortunately, too many people of both sexes fail this test, resorting to old needful and selfish childhood attitudes and behaviours that are fatal to an adult relationship. Hence our depressing divorce rate of 50%, and its doleful effect on everyone involved, especially children caught in the playground crossfire.
Infantile social ‘justice’ warriors (whatever their emotional motivations for playing on these differences – mommy/daddy problems?) will get nowhere with their absurd gender theories – which are actually a denial of biological and evolutionary science.
If there is a Divine Plan, there is no better proof of it than in the magnificent and complementary differences between males and females of our species, evident everywhere in Nature. It is the Truth, it is pure Genius in our lives, and it is why we’re still on this planet, despite all the odds against us.”
I am a much better person, and man, for having learnt so much from the women with whom I have worked – and those I have served in my career.