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Dear Mexican: Why do so many Mexican women feel so jealous when other Mexican women achieve success? I have to deal with this all the time. Please explain.

A Successful Mexican Woman

Dear Pocha: Because cishet patriarchy—DUH.

 

How do I get over my consciousness about being seen as a “sell-out” for dating a white guy? I think if I was a receptionist, I’d feel less troubled, but I’m a professional and hate fitting into the stereotype of the successful Latina with the hyphenated last name. Is there anyway that a chola from East LA and a surfer from Malibu would not be seen as an odd couple?

Loca Pero No Naca

Dear Crazy but Not Trashy: You’re not a sell-out for dating gabachos; you’re a vendida for thinking you’re better than others because you’re a “professional.” And a secretary isn’t? Maybe the Malibu crowd think you’re a maid, and may the Eastlos crowd think your surfer is some hipster douchebag.

 

Why have you all kept Astrid Hadad such a secret? I just saw a show about her, and for God’s sakes! A woman who has a huge set of tits made into a skirt? THIS woman really, really needs a bigger audience for her act. Does she ever come to El Norte? Could you ask? Please? She has a wit like a razor for EVERYONE. Pretty cool—if nothing else, get her name out as she is very cool.

Galloping Gorda the Pavement Crusher

Dear Gabacha: Haddad is a chingona, but there’s a bunch of similarly subversive mujeres in Mexican music and performance art, from the days of Lola Beltrán and Gloria Trevi through the late, great Jenni Rivera and Rita Guerrero of Santa Sabina. There’s more to Mexican female art that Frida Kahlo, gentle cabrones.

 

My “Mexican” workmates get very excited to see go see Latin bands. (I say “Mexican” because some have been here so long they don’t speak Spanish well). These people put salsa on the jukebox whenever they get a chance. They clamor for Mexi-music at holiday parties. They seem to wrap themselves in the Mexican flag. I’ve seen their record collections, and there’s a bunch of classic rock and reggae—but, if it has Latin flavor, then they’re all over it. They even start speaking with accents. We’re talking post-grad degrees, third- or fourth-generation. Question: why can’t they motivate to see rock or reggae at free shows around town, but then get so easily excited about Latin bands?

Bruja in HB

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Dear Huntington Beach Witch: Because free rock or reggae shows tend to vale madre. But I really don’t get your question. So you’re mad that assimilated Mexican-Americans like Mexican music? Why aren’t you mad at Italian-Americans for worshipping at the altar of Dean Martin and Frank Sinatra? Or Southerners for wishing to see bluegrass remain as pure as a mountain spring in the Bluegrass? That’s right: because they’re not Mexican. To paraphrase the old Annie Get Your Gun song “Anything You Can Do, I Can Do Better”: Anything Americans can do, Mexicans can’t because we’re just illegal alien savages to them. And they wonder why we planned the Reconquista…

 

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  1. Anonymous says: • Disclaimer

    So, the process of demonizing and delegitimizing “whites” has also reached your despicable blog. Actually, white males are attracted to Latinas. There is a better chance that Latinas are not feminists who will castrate you in the middle of the night.

    White men married to Asian women are a “match made in heaven”. That’s also the case for many whites married to Latinas. Ask Fred Reed.

    “Bolillo, get rid of that smile on your face.” (Fred, that includes you!)

    BTW: What is a “Gabacho”?

    Gabacho (Spanish pronunciation: [ɡaˈβatʃo]; feminine, gabacha) is a word used in the Spanish language as a pejorative reference to French people. It derives from the Occitan word gavach, which translates as “someone who speaks with a faulty speech”.

    Gustavo, your arrogance and ignorance are beyond comprehension. In North America, you need to go far north to Quebec to find “Frenchies”. We, south of the Canadian border, are “Bilillo” … “white bread rolls” and proud of it.

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    Not all that far north. You may have heard of Cajuns.
    , @Texan1

    Actually, white males are attracted to Latinas. There is a better chance that Latinas are not feminists who will castrate you in the middle of the night.
     
    You do realize that John Wayne Bobbitt was married to an Ecuadoran. The rest is history.
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  2. How do I get over my consciousness about being seen as a “sell-out” for dating a white guy?

    Your average Mexican is the product of a white guy humping a brown gal.

    Conquistadores raped the natives.

    So, it’s part of the Mexer-Mixer tradition.

    Big Conqui or Gringo taking small brown woman.

    Look at Jeb and his midget queen.

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    • Replies: @Wally
    Not true.

    Most Mexicans are pure Indian with fake Spanish names, they only wish they had Spanish genes.
    , @Karl
    2 Priss Factor > Conquistadores benefited from War Bride Syndrome and hypergamy.


    fixed it for you!

    Yes.... all women are like that
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  3. “Mexicans can’t because we’re just illegal alien savages to them”

    Your racism never ceases to amaze Gus.

    facepalm.

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  4. Wally says:

    Well, duh.

    Then don’t use a hyphenated name.

    That’s like Michael Jackson saying we was trying to be incognito by wearing flashy silk hold-up masks.

    Regardless, that surfer is more likely than not to have a higher IQ than the always dimwitted cholo.

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  5. Wally says:
    @Priss Factor
    How do I get over my consciousness about being seen as a “sell-out” for dating a white guy?

    Your average Mexican is the product of a white guy humping a brown gal.

    Conquistadores raped the natives.

    So, it's part of the Mexer-Mixer tradition.

    Big Conqui or Gringo taking small brown woman.

    Look at Jeb and his midget queen.

    Not true.

    Most Mexicans are pure Indian with fake Spanish names, they only wish they had Spanish genes.

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    Most Mexicans are pure Indian with fake Spanish names, they only wish they had Spanish genes.
     
    Fake news. Please stop it. Have you ever even been to Mexico ?
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  6. Logan says:
    @Anonymous
    So, the process of demonizing and delegitimizing "whites" has also reached your despicable blog. Actually, white males are attracted to Latinas. There is a better chance that Latinas are not feminists who will castrate you in the middle of the night.

    White men married to Asian women are a "match made in heaven". That's also the case for many whites married to Latinas. Ask Fred Reed.

    "Bolillo, get rid of that smile on your face." (Fred, that includes you!)

    BTW: What is a "Gabacho"?

    Gabacho (Spanish pronunciation: [ɡaˈβatʃo]; feminine, gabacha) is a word used in the Spanish language as a pejorative reference to French people. It derives from the Occitan word gavach, which translates as "someone who speaks with a faulty speech".
     
    Gustavo, your arrogance and ignorance are beyond comprehension. In North America, you need to go far north to Quebec to find "Frenchies". We, south of the Canadian border, are "Bilillo" ... "white bread rolls" and proud of it.

    Not all that far north. You may have heard of Cajuns.

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  7. I urge any and all young,feminine,submissive,sexy,shapely,lovely lite skinned Latinas (and that’s latinA,not X)to “sell out” and devote yourselves to fulfilling white man’s Dreams(be a dreamer)

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    • Replies: @Truth
    Then we'll have to pick up the slack with all of the blonde girls, dude I'm too busy for that. They get on my F'n nerves...

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yWe9n3eq9gs
    , @Texan1

    Anything Americans can do, Mexicans can't because we're just illegal alien savages to them. And they wonder why we planned the Reconquista...
     
    Let's flip the coin. I took my British-heritage wife to visit Mexico once and one of the children, an honors student in a Texas high-school, refused to speak any English to her. This same cousin refused to have anything to do with our son.

    Napoleon III helped Austrian Archduke Maximilian Emporer rule Mexico, he declared himself Emporer in 1864. Until 2003, Maximilian's was the only Mexican government that tried to prevent the loss of indigenous languages. (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Languages_of_Mexico#cite_note-Suarez-3)

    Does it not seem that the poorest Mexicans received the best governance (perhaps until 2003?) under French/German rule?

    , @basque british are small brained
    have pity on the latinas you small brained basque british, and your brothers the even smaller brained basque spanish have infected the natives enough with the inferior R1b with its bad immunity , h e he he
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  8. How do I get over my consciousness about being seen as a “sell-out” for dating a white guy?

    It’s called mejorando la raza.

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  9. Texan1 says:
    @Anonymous
    So, the process of demonizing and delegitimizing "whites" has also reached your despicable blog. Actually, white males are attracted to Latinas. There is a better chance that Latinas are not feminists who will castrate you in the middle of the night.

    White men married to Asian women are a "match made in heaven". That's also the case for many whites married to Latinas. Ask Fred Reed.

    "Bolillo, get rid of that smile on your face." (Fred, that includes you!)

    BTW: What is a "Gabacho"?

    Gabacho (Spanish pronunciation: [ɡaˈβatʃo]; feminine, gabacha) is a word used in the Spanish language as a pejorative reference to French people. It derives from the Occitan word gavach, which translates as "someone who speaks with a faulty speech".
     
    Gustavo, your arrogance and ignorance are beyond comprehension. In North America, you need to go far north to Quebec to find "Frenchies". We, south of the Canadian border, are "Bilillo" ... "white bread rolls" and proud of it.

    Actually, white males are attracted to Latinas. There is a better chance that Latinas are not feminists who will castrate you in the middle of the night.

    You do realize that John Wayne Bobbitt was married to an Ecuadoran. The rest is history.

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    Venezuelan actually. She did look Spanish though, not particularly mestizo.
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  10. Texan1 says:
    @Wally
    Not true.

    Most Mexicans are pure Indian with fake Spanish names, they only wish they had Spanish genes.

    Most Mexicans are pure Indian with fake Spanish names, they only wish they had Spanish genes.

    Fake news. Please stop it. Have you ever even been to Mexico ?

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    • Replies: @Wally
    Many, many times, many cities, many regions.

    Planning to go again in a couple of months.

    You lose.

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  11. Truth says:
    @Father O'Hara
    I urge any and all young,feminine,submissive,sexy,shapely,lovely lite skinned Latinas (and that's latinA,not X)to "sell out" and devote yourselves to fulfilling white man's Dreams(be a dreamer)

    Then we’ll have to pick up the slack with all of the blonde girls, dude I’m too busy for that. They get on my F’n nerves…

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    @Texan1

    Actually, white males are attracted to Latinas. There is a better chance that Latinas are not feminists who will castrate you in the middle of the night.
     
    You do realize that John Wayne Bobbitt was married to an Ecuadoran. The rest is history.

    Venezuelan actually. She did look Spanish though, not particularly mestizo.

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    I just did a quick lookup. I don't think it's really that big a difference, the point she was from a Spanish-speaking country.
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  13. Wally says:
    @Texan1

    Most Mexicans are pure Indian with fake Spanish names, they only wish they had Spanish genes.
     
    Fake news. Please stop it. Have you ever even been to Mexico ?

    Many, many times, many cities, many regions.

    Planning to go again in a couple of months.

    You lose.

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    LOL. Ever been to the north? Tamps., or N.L. ?

    Reminds me of the joke about a German ordering beer in a NY McD's...

    A German tries to order a beer in a NY McD, and the guy behind him calls him an idiot. The German says "You're the idiot, I'm here for the beer, you're here for the food!"

    May I ask why you risk going to Mexico ?
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  14. Texan1 says:
    @Wally
    Many, many times, many cities, many regions.

    Planning to go again in a couple of months.

    You lose.

    LOL. Ever been to the north? Tamps., or N.L. ?

    Reminds me of the joke about a German ordering beer in a NY McD’s…

    A German tries to order a beer in a NY McD, and the guy behind him calls him an idiot. The German says “You’re the idiot, I’m here for the beer, you’re here for the food!”

    May I ask why you risk going to Mexico ?

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  15. Texan1 says:
    @anonymous
    Venezuelan actually. She did look Spanish though, not particularly mestizo.

    I just did a quick lookup. I don’t think it’s really that big a difference, the point she was from a Spanish-speaking country.

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  16. Texan1 says:
    @Father O'Hara
    I urge any and all young,feminine,submissive,sexy,shapely,lovely lite skinned Latinas (and that's latinA,not X)to "sell out" and devote yourselves to fulfilling white man's Dreams(be a dreamer)

    Anything Americans can do, Mexicans can’t because we’re just illegal alien savages to them. And they wonder why we planned the Reconquista…

    Let’s flip the coin. I took my British-heritage wife to visit Mexico once and one of the children, an honors student in a Texas high-school, refused to speak any English to her. This same cousin refused to have anything to do with our son.

    Napoleon III helped Austrian Archduke Maximilian Emporer rule Mexico, he declared himself Emporer in 1864. Until 2003, Maximilian’s was the only Mexican government that tried to prevent the loss of indigenous languages. (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Languages_of_Mexico#cite_note-Suarez-3)

    Does it not seem that the poorest Mexicans received the best governance (perhaps until 2003?) under French/German rule?

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    Sorry, this message was a reply to Mr. Arellano, not "@Father O'Hara"
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  17. Texan1 says:
    @Texan1

    Anything Americans can do, Mexicans can't because we're just illegal alien savages to them. And they wonder why we planned the Reconquista...
     
    Let's flip the coin. I took my British-heritage wife to visit Mexico once and one of the children, an honors student in a Texas high-school, refused to speak any English to her. This same cousin refused to have anything to do with our son.

    Napoleon III helped Austrian Archduke Maximilian Emporer rule Mexico, he declared himself Emporer in 1864. Until 2003, Maximilian's was the only Mexican government that tried to prevent the loss of indigenous languages. (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Languages_of_Mexico#cite_note-Suarez-3)

    Does it not seem that the poorest Mexicans received the best governance (perhaps until 2003?) under French/German rule?

    Sorry, this message was a reply to Mr. Arellano, not “@Father O’Hara”

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  18. Karl says:
    @Priss Factor
    How do I get over my consciousness about being seen as a “sell-out” for dating a white guy?

    Your average Mexican is the product of a white guy humping a brown gal.

    Conquistadores raped the natives.

    So, it's part of the Mexer-Mixer tradition.

    Big Conqui or Gringo taking small brown woman.

    Look at Jeb and his midget queen.

    2 Priss Factor > Conquistadores benefited from War Bride Syndrome and hypergamy.

    fixed it for you!

    Yes…. all women are like that

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  19. Latinas mainly the ones who have the MIGHTY ASIAN EDAR gene would be crazy to date these white people, especially the small brained basque british people, heaven forbid you have kids, your kids would now have the weak immune system of the said small brained basque british.

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  20. @Father O'Hara
    I urge any and all young,feminine,submissive,sexy,shapely,lovely lite skinned Latinas (and that's latinA,not X)to "sell out" and devote yourselves to fulfilling white man's Dreams(be a dreamer)

    have pity on the latinas you small brained basque british, and your brothers the even smaller brained basque spanish have infected the natives enough with the inferior R1b with its bad immunity , h e he he

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